Woman, You Are Blessed! Honor & Submit To Him!

For my fellow Christian wives,

Woman, do you know you are blessed? You have been honored because God placed you in the position of a wife, and that is something sacred. In a world that is constantly trying to devalue God's design for marriage, and wants women to be bitter and man hating, God brought you love, strength, and dignity in the form of your husband, and your marriage stands as a testament that true love is out there, and it can be committed and lasting, a true reflection of Christ and His bride, the church. You are not worried about divorce statistics because you and your husband live by faith no matter what trials come. You are blessed, indeed! Our God is good, and he brought you a good husband. Even if you are mad at your husband right now, you know he's a good man. So, why are you turning to the internet about specific advice on the running of your home? I do not mean a question that is broad like what is a good color of paint for the house door, I mean specific about what you should do in a scenario where you should turn to your husband? I keep seeing this. Christian wives, if your husband is a God-fearing man, why are you asking the internet about what theological position you should teach your children? Why are you asking the internet about what your husband should do with his job? Why are you asking outside opinions when your husband prays and gets his answer faithfully from the Lord and then gave you his answer? Even worse, Christian women, are giving you advice against your husband and do not tell you to turn to your husband. I understand it is easy to get captured in the internet culture, but the internet has Christians acting unbecomingly, and that includes the advice given to wives. Not everyone is doing that, but it is happening in great numbers. So, I am here to be a voice against such a thing at this time, and not my own teaching, but what the word of our Creator teaches us.

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. 

~Ephesians 5:22-24~

When this passage is brought up, as Christian women the temptation is to talk about the exception to the rule and so let me get that out of the way. If your husband asks you to sin, then don't! There now that we have that out of the way, back to submission. God established the husband as the head of his home. The scripture is clear and because of that we should willingly submit to our God-fearing husbands. If you do not like his decision or feel there is a wiser decision to be made, lovingly take your concerns to your husband, but at the end of the day step back and let him lead even if you disagree. You do not need a million internet voices in your business like that. If you feel you need more counsel, find a God-fearing woman you truly know, who will not tell you to against your husband, but will talk to you lovingly in your walk with God with Scripture and pray with you and for you. 

Does submission mean you will not have your own opinion? Of course not, God gave you a mind to serve the Lord and that also means you need to use it for the goodness of your husband. Sometimes, you can give your husband a perspective on a situation he had not considered. For example, your husband wants to buy an expensive watch because it will appreciate in value, but you notice if he waits and puts the money towards a business idea he has, you can prayerfully and lovingly tell him as much, and being a God-fearing man he will make his decision, and then it is your job to trust that God has a purpose for the decision your husband has made whether it is the one you wanted or not.

Does submission mean you never have a say? No, that's not the case. Your God-fearing husband is not perfect, and there are times you will have to admonish him and encourage him in Christ. You are a Christian before anything else, and that is what connects you and your husband spiritually, and because of that there are times where your responsibility is to warn him when he is about to fall into sin or major error. A God-fearing wife has a responsibility to help her husband guard their home from the temptations of the world, the flesh, and the Devil.

What if your husband is not a Christian? The marriage where you are not spiritually on the same page will have challenges that spiritually matched couples will not, but as a Christian wife you are not exempt from God's commands because of His spiritual status. Submission still applies to you. Ephesians 5 does not exempt a wife based on her husband's spiritual position. You are still called to honor, love, and respect him. He is still the head of your home. Your only exception of when not to follow him, as stated before, is if he asks you to sin. 

When you do not submit to your husband you are actively giving the Devil a foothold in your marriage. I do not care how many professing Christian women tell you to go the opposite of that man. You are not covenanted with them. Your covenant is with your husband. It's a tale as old as time that we women step outside of our protection and chaos ensues. Eve was in the garden looking right at Adam and gave the advice she was told opposite of God's will, and she took her husband and whole bloodline to Hell with her. That is why we are struggling until this very day. Every soul that does not make it to Heaven is the result of the decision of a wife who did not submit, and instead of being the helper she was called to be to her husband, she harmed her whole family (read Genesis 3). 

So, I leave you with this. Honor your husband and submit to him! Don't listen when the world tells you to go against him. Trust that your husband loves you and is devoted to your marriage because He is devoted to God. God blessed you with him. Your marriage is a magnificent accomplishment in a world that stands against God, so always do your part in building it up God's way and not tearing it down. 

The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.

~Proverbs 14:1~

May God bless you, and may you enjoy that marriage as you serve your king.

In Christ,

Mrs. Deja Sarchet